Faith, God, and the Gut – are they one in the same?

Hello Warrior Parents,

Sorry this post took longer than I thought.  It’s a bit heavy, I had work travel, and I wanted to make sure it was conveying a good message to you.  Before I go getting serious talking about the next part of our journey.  I felt compelled to take a side step and blog about Faith, God, and the Gut, and what that’s meant to me and this journey we’ve been on with our daughter.

Faith has been a huge part of our story. I was never a religious person, but I knew when my husband and I were engaged that I wanted to raise the children we planned to have Catholic as our parents had attempted for us.  I had to go to church as apart of my education to get my communion and confirmation before we could marry. Although my parents intent was to raise me catholic I never got the sacraments done as a child.  Outside of an intent for us to be Christian, there wasn’t much talk in my home as a child about God.  I’ve always been curious about people who go to church weekly, who live faithful lives…People I would envision hearing quote scripture.  It’s been studied and confirmed, that people who are more religious/spiritual have better mental health and adapt more quickly to health problems/life problems compared to those who have less or none at all.  I was always drawn to that, but never knew where to start for myself.

I also want to use this blog post to provide you a little history about me.  I came from a very dysfunctional family, was one of 5 children, and had what would be to today’s standards a physically, mentally and emotionally abusive mother, and at times an absentee father.  I was the middle child, and as you can imagine, getting any positive attention from my parents was difficult if not nonexistent.  To try and sum up my upbringing in a nutshell – I was physically abused almost daily for years by my mother.  My father was not physically abusive, but was so mentally and emotionally terrifying that I would prefer to be beaten instead of getting dealt his harsh psychological punishments.  On top of this I would try and exist in a volatile household where we’d watch our parents fight more then not.  If they weren’t fighting they were indifferent to each other.  Not 100% sure which is worse.  

Nevertheless, there wasn’t much talk about faith, although I know both believed in God, that’s really as far as our conversations went with it.  I think about that now as I raise my own kids.  Flying blind it felt like.  Trying to get through the toughest times as a child in a difficult household, feeling as if I was  a constant target for bullying at school, the typical stressors of the teenage years.. BOY I could have used some guidance and support.

I was raised with a general understanding that there is a God, he created all things, etc etc.  What that meant for me, I had no clue.  From that moment on I relied more on my “self will” than any divine power.  I was a parishioner of the mindset, that those who work hard are always rewarded.  That if I put my “mind” to it there was nothing I couldn’t accomplish.  Now don’t let me mislead you, my life up until this point was never easy.  In fact it was nothing short of continuous round house kicks to the face.  What I share now was something that really SHOOK me and my belief system in a profound way and started me on the path to understand that I was not alone in the things that were happening to me and the decisions I would make.

I always considered myself a hard worker, never once thought I would ever leave a job not on my terms.  But one day, that is exactly what happen.  I ended up parting ways with a job, that I thought was a dream job when I got it, but just like many things in life, not everything lives up to our first impressions.  This company was being run by a narcissistic mad man gone wild.  In the midst of this lunatic trying to run this company into the ground, I was knee deep in anger at God and the world about my daughter’s diagnosis. Nevertheless, still, I never saw me leaving happening on any other basis but “my choice”, yet here I was jobless and terrified.  I spent the next few days in utter panic, not sure how we’d pay the mortgage or put food on the table.  After a few days of this my “work ethic” kicked in.  I was down but not out.  I started the process of updating my resume and submitting it to as many competing companies as I could.  Within a month I had 3 job offers on the table.  2 high profile and one very risky but if it worked out, very rewarding.  I went to my “gut” and no other reason then going by “feel”, I picked the riskiest of the 3 jobs.  I resolved that if I had made the wrong decision, I could start the hunt again.  I was devastated but by losing that original job, it led me to an even more exciting, more fulfilling position that I would not have ever come across had I not left the previous employment.  Not only did I get a better opportunity, I felt “possessed” when I was looking for it.  Even though I was pissed at him, I asked God for help with this endeavor.  I found it 100% “on my own” and was “obsessed” with the “mindset” that I must find a job that would fulfill all of my families needs and still allow me to work from home and grow as a sales person. 

I look back at this scenario and I know now that I have a CHOICE in how I see it.  Did shit happen to me to lose that job, or was it suppose to happen that way?  Was it another bad luck scenario or was I being guided?  My own “willpower” found this job right?  At the time I would have chalked it up to shit happens and good thing I have such strong “will power” or “work ethic”, but now I 1000% believe everything was sent to me.  That shift in “mindset” didn’t happen overnight but I know now that once I was able to see that for what it was.  Once I was able to start being more curious vs cursing of God’s decisions to put hardships my way, the more I was not only at peace in my life, but enlightened to the fact that God does not want to harm us, God does not want us to fail.  He is always there waiting for us to acknowledge and ask for his guidance.    

“my mind”
“my self”
“my choice”
“mindset”
“obsessed”
“will power”

The moment I shifted my thoughts from me, to him, or to the Universe or Energy, or to higher power, whatever you are most comfortable with, the more results arrived to me.  The more I went from the above “words representing me vs him” to understanding I was not alone in this life and decisions, the more the stress and anger lifted.  I could help my daughter heal in ways I never thought possible.  

I plan on sharing all of my story with you, but the answers are not in my story but in YOUR journey.  At any moment in this life you can make the CHOICE to think differently…to take another path.  To know you are not alone, to maybe think even in your worst days dealing with a child on the spectrum that there might be a reason that you could never understand that you are going through this.  What is the message?  What is the lesson?  I took this detour because from this point forward, every step in our journey was not a step I took alone, I wanted you to have the basis of where our strengths, failures and successes have come from.  If I could hope anything from this post, is that you are open minded to what I’ve shared.

Back to our timeline next week.  
xoxo Michelle

P.S. Let’s talk coaching – I’ve provided mentorship, advocacy and support to local parents of children with Special Needs and I’d like to offer it to my subscribers. If you’re ready to get down to business and work with me directly to help you do what I did email me at michelle@michellebrogers.com to talk.

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