So I was coaching a client a few weeks ago and she mentioned to me that her last CSE meeting went for 2 hours and she was frustrated she didn’t get what she needed.
“2 Hours???” I said
“Yea and we just went in circles and I didn’t get what I wanted”
So I told her “You didn’t get anywhere because you kept the meeting going too long.”
So Mom goes on and on about how she’s entitled to that meeting, which she is, and she tells me that if she wants a hundred of them she can have them, which she can.
But the problem is when you walk into a meeting and you are the one with the “ASK” you lose all your leverage when you get greedy. Not greedy in asking for services you truly believe your child needs, but greedy in not respecting people’s time.
This is business for them, personal to you.
This fight to get our kids what they need to thrive is always always a marathon never a sprint. If you need to enter a CSE meeting with the “ASK” then you need to be prepared to work a case towards it. AND You can’t think you’re working a case towards it in one LONG meeting. They do several of these meetings a day and if they go past an hour, it’s infringing on their scheduling, which means their day is now getting longer, which means their patience with you is getting shorter.
So the next time you are headed into a meeting and you have the “ASK” say to yourself, “Marathon, not a Sprint”. Be prepared that if there is a lot of space between what you want vs. what they are offering, it is going to take time to close the gap. AND make sure you are always leaving friends and not being perceived as the TIME SUCK Mom.
Till next time!
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